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According to the user, her sister has even displayed the items she’s removed from the house in her own home.

“[She] also took a number of our late father’s ornaments which my mother wasn’t too pleased about. Neither of us has asked for these back; seemed easier to let it go.” After realizing yet another item had gone missing, her mother suggested she send her sister an email.

According to BellaVida101, her sister’s response read: “As you feel so confident in accusing me of theft, why don’t you call the police? I expect an unreserved apology from you.”

The user describes her own reply, apologizing and clarifying that she was not accusing her sister of theft: “What can I do to smooth it over? She, obviously, matters more to me than stuff does, and I wish I hadn’t said anything.”

Newsweek spoke to Marni Goldman, life coach, author, and CEO of wellness company Peace Love Marni, about the awkward interaction.

“When it comes to sisterly love and respect, I think both these two are on different pages. Of course, the original poster is not unreasonable. What did she do wrong? Asked a question? The sister here got caught in a lie, and getting on the defensive is a typical reaction. It’s so unhealthy—and somewhat toxic—to have someone in your life whom you constantly need to walk on eggshells with. Your self-respect is what’s important, not the objects. Nobody should be entitled to yell at you, especially because they didn’t like your question. Healthy communication is always the best course of action, and if this doesn’t work, set boundaries. No one should allow themselves to be bullied, even for the sake of peace.”

Over 90 percent of Mumsnet users voted that the user was not being unreasonable.

User SpacePotato said, “If I were you, I’d be taking home anything that was/is mine before it disappears,” while user Irridescantshimmmer commented, “Your sister has taken something without asking you first which you were not aware of at the time, that is theft.”

Newsweek could not verify the details of the case.

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